May 29th, 2024

By: Maryam Yousuf, LPC

Eid-ul-Fitr marks the end of Ramadan, wherein we celebrate the infinite blessings of this month with our loved ones and express our gratitude to Allah (SWT). As we engage in hugs and smiles to commemorate the joyous time, we also recognize the release of the shayateen (devils) which can inevitably start what many refer to as the “post Ramadan blues”. This term is used to allude to the mixed bag of emotions that come with the end of this spiritual month, including less excitement and commitment in our religious practice, a decreased sense of community and belonging, and guilt as we slowly start turning back to our bad habits. It is critical to recognize that these effects of leaving Ramadan, or any “spiritual highs” in general, can impact our mental well-being. May is mental health awareness month, but for us as Muslims, the significance of mental health matters every day.

The Mental & Spiritual War During Times of Difficulty

As Muslims, we have the gift of purpose and meaning– to surrender to and worship Allah (SWT). Crafting a strong sense of iman (faith) can be instrumental in providing us relief and perseverance, especially when we are placed in difficult situations. However, we sometimes think that someone who is “religious or spiritual” should have an easier life, as they have an active relationship with Allah (SWT). We know this is untrue, as all of the Prophets (as), the best of Creation, were tested. In reality, everyone experiences trials, and neither times of difficulty or ease in this dunya (world) are permanent. While trying circumstances cannot be avoided, we do have the ability to establish a sincere connection with Allah (SWT) and ask Him (SWT) to make our mental and spiritual “ship” strong enough to weather the storms which He (SWT) Sends to us. 

Mental health is a part of our overall health; other components include physical, spiritual, and intellectual well-being. Allah (SWT) Created us and He Gave us the emotions that we experience. Being sad or in a state of grief does not necessarily equate to weak faith or disbelief. On the contrary, our despair can be used to pull ourselves nearer to Him (SWT). As Muslims, we know that “There is no disease that Allah has Created, except that He also has Created its treatment” (Sahih Al-Bukhari, book #71, Hadith 582, narrated by Abu Huraira). Along with increasing our love for Allah (SWT), we find solace in trial by recognizing that this is also a means of cleansing of sins, having an opportunity to improve in our character, and attaining a higher rank in the Afterlife. 

I’m Struggling, Now What?

• • Talk to Allah (SWT). No, really. We often become too formal and distant while making Dua (supplication). To have a good relationship with anyone, we know good communication with honesty and vulnerability is key. This applies to an even greater extent when we desire to be heard and responded to by Allah (SWT).

• • Fix the Prayer. Being consistent and having standards in the quality of our prayer is critical. Whatever it is that we are rushing our prayers for, Allah (SWT) is in Control of that, too. Take your time in your remembrance and reflection to show Him (SWT) that you are giving your best in Salah (prayer). If the prayer is good, everything else will fall into place by Allah (SWT)’s Mercy.

• • Identify all the Variables. Account for your nafs (self), shaytan (devil), lack of shukr (gratitude), any missed tawbah (repentance), faults in character, unfulfilled obligations, and hardened or impure state of the heart and soul. If we exhaust ourselves in the pursuit of Allah (SWT)’s response and recognition, we strive to ensure that there are no debts against us, which may be prolonging our test. Always ask “What can I do right now to be better? What can I do right now that will be pleasing to my Rab?”

• • Know that You are not Alone. Reaching out to consult with trusted allies is recommended, especially when it comes to areas in which we lack knowledge or experience. Shedding light and gaining perspective can help shift the way we receive and work through our tests.

• • Get Professional Help. We are fortunate to live in a time where many mental health professionals are practicing with a faith-based approach. Find appropriate Muslim clinicians, support groups, and resources to lessen the burden of your test and provide you with clarity.